Years ago a friend told me about her sister's unexpected hysterectomy. The sister awoke from an exploratory surgery to be told that they had done a complete hysterectomy. The woman burst into tears and said, "Now I will never have Eric Clapton's baby."
I love that story - a pretty unlikely scenario had been secretly giving that woman joy for a long time.
Which means - we can get our joy wherever we want -- it is completely up to us.
A friend of mine wakes up every morning and chooses to thank God that she is one day closer to being with her son again. She doesn't complain that he was taken to heaven too soon. And she knows joy.
Years ago, another friend became ill during her pregnancy and was almost entirely paralyzed by the time of the birth. Her joyful letter read, "I was so glad I could breathe on my own when she was born."
Some people live lives of quiet desperation. Some people live lives of joy.
I'm getting ready for the Austin Film Festival and have signed up for the "pitch" contest. I want to win so I can "pitch" my screenplay to an audience of producers and directors. The inside scoop is that I need to say something that no one else says so that I am memorable.
So I want to mention Steven Tyler. You are now overly aware that the screenplay has a tribute to him and that I have gone to extremes to give him a copy of it. Since I remember every nanosecond of our meeting, I feel certain that he does also. I'm sure he is carrying around the same headline I am: "Rocking out with Steven Tyler and the Chick That Plays Harmonica".
I included my phone number with the screenplay and I have been waiting for Steven's call for 5 months. No - I'm not sitting and waiting for the call the way I used to wait for a date's "I'll give you a call". It is just a little source of joy for me to believe that at some point, Steven is going to call and say he likes my story. It doesn't hurt a soul for me to believe that and it always makes me happy.
Every couple of weeks I facebook (is that a verb now?) with someone from Rock and Roll Fantasy Camp that really is friends with Steven Tyler. Among other topics, I occasionally ask if he knows if Steven has looked at the screenplay.
Today's facebook (now it's a noun) said he was on a plane with him and that we should talk about the screenplay and asked how to get in touch with me.
I whooped and hollered and ran down and told my 17-yr-old son that when I yell at him, he needs to come up and listen to the conversation when Steven Tyler calls me. I can read my son's smiles now. This one said either, "that's funny, mom" or "so senile so soon". I told him what I just told you and he assured me that no one had told me that Steven Tyler was going to call me on the phone.
But you know what? I can spend the next 10 days telling myself Steven Tyler is not going to call me or I can spend them joyfully awaiting his call. And timing is critical in this way of living. Another 'dating' example: after the first date but before the second, is the time I called my sister to say "I'm dating a stock broker." (Back when that was something to brag about.)
I am choosing to follow the example of the people I know who are the happiest . . . in cheerful expectation . . .
And we will just see how long my blog has this title!