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This is the fusion of being a fan of football and now at 43, playing professional tackle football with the Dallas Diamonds, 4-time World Champions. We travel together through my journey of being an overweight, suburban wife and mom to a seasoned professional athlete. My goals include encouraging and impacting you to live a clean and active life and to never utter the words, 'I can't'!

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Shocked at what he saw kneeling on the sideline, my DB Coach wonder what to say to me as I cried for the first time at practice. I know, you can just hear it, “There’s no crying in football!” He did not say that, but I was thinking it as I desperately fought back the wave forming in my eyes. It surfaced, however, and the stream of tears flowed as I shared with him my humiliation of my performance that day. Add frustration, few home challenges, and a dose of doubt into the mix and, well, I could not keep the tears away.

 

I recalled all the off-season hard work I put in to improve and how, at least on this night, he could not tell! That’s frustrating! And, at this practice, a number of our season Veterans made their return. I did not expect to see these players. Some who said they retired, decided to play again. They love the game! I understand that. Yet, their return changed the dynamic of practice. That happens all the time on professional teams. Players come and go and you have to adjust.

 

Wanting to maintain the good feelings about my progress so far in this pre-season and the unity established with our new Rookies, I failed to adjust to the new changes when the Vets returned. That mental lapse impacted my practice. That’s not good!

 

I also let my age and lack of experience increase my doubt. I began to question whether I could really play this violent game at 42. Could I secure a spot in front of younger Veterans with more experience, “what in the world am I thinking…what am I doing?...they don’t believe in me and maybe neither do I?”

 

Doubt exploded! And, in football, your finished if doubt takes hold. Teammate Rachel May said to me, “When I see doubt in your eyes, I know I have you. That’s fear.” And, as the wise theologian Bono once said in one of his songs, “We are wounded in fear, injured in doubt”. That doubt got me on my heels and knocked flat on my back by Rachel and Danilynn Welniak, a teammate half my age. So, yep, with my head and my heart hurt, I succumbed to the tears. Ugh!

 

After practice, I spoke with Coach revealing all this to him. He encouraged me to stick with it and keep working hard. My trainer stopped our session the next day sensing my doubt and discouragement. He reminded me what I said when I first started football, “If my sole job is to make the Vets better, than that is what I’m here to do.” He said to remember the fun of football. And, in a recent text message he noted all the people I inspire with my story, “I love you for who you are and admire you for what you have accomplished. People watch you, see you, and learn from you that anything is possible.” 

 

Jen Welter, a Diamonds All-Pro LB and Safety said to me “I believe in you. I would take you on any team I was ever on.” Rookie Ann Marie Shambaugh gave me an incredible encouragement card. Her words made me cry the good tears felt when loved.

 

GREAT LEARNING COMES IN ADVERSITY

 

I’ve learned from this. Old tapes of a lack of confidence still get triggered with change. Change reveals what we are made of: am I the type of person to press on and pursue excellence or give up and take the easy way out?

 

Honestly, I don’t know what it is like to not doubt when facing a huge challenge. I commit to persevere while I grow in confidence as I learn and get better. Thus, I’ve discovered three key components of excellent coaching essential for athletes like me: practical technique, repetition, and encouragement. These three elements provide a winning environment.

 

It inspires me to know coaches, players, friends believe in me and/or the potential they see. Silence and neglect result in dismay and lack of commitment. Words of encouragement keep the passion and drive alive! Come on, don’t we all need to be lifted up on occasion?

 

So, in turn, even in my doubt, I began calling on other players to lift them up. I figured they needed it too! I found serving and focusing on others kept me off myself!

 

When facing the heat of a challenge, I also remember my identity does not lie in my performance but it is secure in my faith. Whether I succeed for fail as an impact player, my identity remains the same. Who knows, maybe my defining moment comes in the face of such adversity.

 

Motivational Tip: Call someone today who you know needs to be lifted up to persevere through adversity, change, or challenge. Let them know how much you believe in them, what he or she means to you, and commit to checking in periodically to see how you can help with their goals.

 

Nutritional Tip: When you are invited over to someone’s house for dinner, go ahead and call them ahead of time to find out the menu. If it does not fit with your commitment to clean eating, then eat a light nutritious snack ahead of time and take small portions of the meal. Or, if you know the hostess, let them know you may not eat certain items given your commitment to a new lifestyle. Believe it or not, but most people are willing to support you. You just have to communicate about your new lifestyle.

 

Fitness Tip: Limit TV and computer gaming time to no more than a few hours per week. Encourage outside activity whether it’s playing basketball, hiking, biking, or simply walking as a friends or with your family.

 

Fun Football Fact: The first football games in America were teams made up of 25 players on each side. Can you visualize that…50 players on the field at one time!

 

Stay inspired,Kip #45

 

 

Dallas Diamonds start the season Saturday, April 11. For ticket information visit www.dallasdiamondsfootball.com  

 

Posted by Kip Watson, MA, LPC, ACE-CPT on Mar 3, 2009 11:32 AM
A number of questions recently have filled my email box relating to exercise and motivation. I thought I would share them with you as you begin closing out month two of your new lifestyle! Keep them coming!
 

Do you burn more fat when you exercise in the morning before breakfast?

 

Yes, one line of research supports this! Your body has been fasting for about 10 to12 hours and your blood glucose levels are low. So if you immediately exercise, you will be tackling some of the fat stores quicker than if you eat then exercise.

 

If you have the goal to burn fat, this is the time to get your cardio workout in for the day and do resistance later! It boosts your metabolism and the lift in metabolism lasts longer throughout your day than a morning spent not exercising.

 

Now, there is another popular train of thought on this. This line of thinking believes it is really about balance - how many calories taken in and how many calories expended in a 24 hour period. Both seem to have research to support their view.

 

And, use caution. You can get into trouble exercising too hard on an empty stomach because low blood glucose and intense exercise can cause a lowering of your immune response. My suggestion for early morning exercisers if you are planning on working out longer than 30 minutes is to eat a little carbohydrate in the form of a slice of toast, orange juice, or even a small protein bar on the run within 30 minutes of your workout. If you're going to work out or run or cycle for longer than an hour, I would eat a little more, including some protein.

 

Make sure you don't overeat after the workout if you're trying to lose weight. This is a major issue for people who don't eat before morning exercise. The tendency to overeat can be strong given the result of low blood glucose and increased appetite. So, when you do eat breakfast, make sure you include a protein of some kind, eggs, low fat cottage cheese, peanut butter, or turkey along with your low sugar cereal or bread and fruit.

 

Is walking just as effective as running?

 

That depends on the goal. I will assume the goal is fat loss. So, if you have bad knees, run only once a week with care - on a treadmill or grass surface or not at all. Running clearly burns more calories than walking. Walking is a great exercise, however. Again, if your goal is to burn fat, you are going to have to increase the intensity and duration to get at the stored fat. Simply walking 3 times a week for 30 minutes will not help you reach your goal.

 

The body normally burns a mix of carbohydrate, as glucose, and fat for fuel. How much of either depends on your physical activity and if, or what you have eaten recently. When you use more energy than you take in from food and drink, the body burns stored fat and carbohydrates, and then even protein, to fuel everyday activity and your physical activity.

More than likely, you have noticed on most cardio machines at the gym a setting that says “fat burning zone”. This simply implies a setting for intensity or speed. The reason for this is the body burns a greater percentage of fat at a slow pace or after about 90 minutes of exercise. But, don't let this fool you. Be informed! The fat burning zone (a low intensity speed zone) is mainly a gimmick! Here is the reasoning: even though you burn more fat going slowly, you still burn a percentage of fat at much faster speeds or intensity.

For example, if you compare walking at a slow rate that burns 60 percent fat and 40 percent glucose and a higher intensity run or duration that burns only 30 percent fat and 70 percent glucose, you may still burn more fat at the higher intensity.

A typical example. Elliptical #1 is the slower 60/40 mix and Running #2 is the faster, 30/70 mix of fat and glucose fuel.

  1. Elliptical in 'fat burning zone' for 30 minutes  -180 calories used  - 108 calories of fat burned
  2. Running on a treadmill for 30 minutes - 400 calories used - 120 calories of fat burned

The bottom line really is how much energy you expend each time you exercise.You are going to have to push yourself and see what you are really made of to reach your goal. I believe each one of you can do it!

The latest research supports interval training for fat/weight loss. Perhaps incorporate some intervals between walking and running…a 30 minute interval workout might include a 3 minute warmup at 3.5mph - run for 30 seconds as fast as you can - drop it down to 4mph for a minute to recover - kick it back up for 30 seconds and repeat for about 20 to 30 minutes followed by a 3 minute cool down.

 

Other great cardio exercise includes swimming, spin classes, boot camps, kickboxing, dancing, step aerobics, stairmaster, elliptical, rowing machine. And, each form can incorporate interval training. Keep your target heart rate between 65% to 85% its maximum.

 

How many minutes into fast walking will you start to burn fat or is it stored calories?

 

Again, some of that depends on your current size, if and what you ate, and the intensity of your walking. If you workout first thing in the morning, you hit the fat storage sooner.

 

Any tips on how to keep motivation especially on the days when I am tired and really just don’t care?

 

The reality of weight loss and even maintenance (and as I write this, the reality of life) is you have to do things you don’t want to and don’t like to regardless of how you feel. Doing the right thing is not dependent on how you feel. Doing the right thing and reaching the goals you set is not dependent upon how you feel. Stop making excuses and just do it. Nike’s slogan works for a reason!!

 

If you need some extra support and encouragement, try confessing your feelings out loud and hear your self make the excuse. Confessing it actually helps take away some of its power over you. Allow God to come in and enable you to ‘just do it’. Make the choice out loud, "I have a decision to make: will I listen to my idol of comfort and pleasure or find out what true God dependence looks like and get out there and work hard? I'm going to choose to see what I'm made of with God's help!"

 

Call a friend if needed to listen to you confess the idols of comfort, pleasure and your desire for ease. Then be accountable to getting through a tough workout or putting the bag of cookies down the drain. Yes, I’ve had an accountability partner listen to me grind that bag of cookies down the drain!!

 

Other helpful motivational tips include using music or watching a great movie while you workout. I have a bike trainer and I pull out and set up my bike in my living room. I sometimes watch a great movie while I do a spin workout! Watch Biggest Loser while you workout or something that will inspire you to keep going even when it’s tough!

 

We’ve been learning about emotional eating. I know I am an emotional eater and much of the emotions of my weight gain through the years is a result of someone’s actions/words towards me in my life. Although I know I am the one putting the food in my mouth, how do I move past blaming them for my present condition?

 

It is easy to point the finger at others and miss our responsibility in the struggle. It is easier to look at our circumstances and believe if that person changes, then we can lose the weight and be okay. "If this person would stop hounding me about what I eat or don’t eat, then I would feel good about myself and lose the weight on my terms." Or, perhaps you are stuck in the 'I'm a failure' mindset. 

 

Stop using others as an excuse and start eating clean and working out. Do what you know is right regardless, again, of how you feel or what they say.

If you feel angry, hurt, or anxious about what others say and do, or if you have some key wounding from the past, then seek some guidance in moving through those issues. Figure out what motive is triggered to idol status by how these people impact you. Ask when you eat and blame others, what is it that you want - peace, security, revenge, comfort, pleasure, love and intimacy. Do you simply feel sorry for yourself and believe you deserve to indulge. That is pleasure.

The greatest change you need for weight loss does not lie in your circumstances, behavior, thinking, or even stress level. The greatest change needs to comes in your heart - recognizing when the idols of heart like the desire for comfort triggers you and choose to work hard anyway and deny yourself the pleasure that creates obesity.

It’s the middle of the day and I’m exhausted, even though I’ve been drinking plenty of water, went for a walk, and have been eating healthy. What is my deal and how do I regain my energy? 

 

I am not a physician, so you may want to get a general check to make sure you are not hypoglycemic or have some other issue going on. Sometimes, a simple 5 minute workout at your desk can help elevate your energy level - do some jumping jacks, push ups against the wall, squats into your chair, toe raises, arm circles, and some general stretching.

 

Try to refrain from simple carbohydrate snacks like popcorn, pretzels, chips or crackers and look for veges and a little lean protein as an afternoon ‘pick me up’. One of my favorite is some red pepper strips along with a ½ c of nonfat cottage cheese. Green tea is another great little boost.

 

How do I get in the habit of not going home and making up excuses to work out? I have good intentions, but they aren’t fulfilled. I just get too tired after a long day at work and can’t wake up early enough in the morning. 

 

I’m going to shoot straight. This is another excuse question! I understand you are tired, I understand it’s been a long day, I understand it’s hard to get up - do it anyway! Often you'll find in the middle of the workout you feel great and refreshed!

 

This is nothing new. You have to work hard and eat clean to get the results you want. If it were easy, you would have reached your goal by now. It’s not easy. It requires you to move beyond your comfort zone. It requires you to rely on God’s Holy Spirit strength inside you rather than yourself.

 

Good intentions are only good when there is follow through. Your real intentions are revealed in your behavior and thinking. "I'm too tired"...or refusal to get up or do it late means what? Perhaps you prefer pleasure and comfort to doing what it takes to reach your goal. You'll never reach your goal if you continue to idolize pleasure and comfort.

 

If you are on your 3rd diet program or more or if you can't seem to gain victory or perhaps you are trading one habit for another, then what will be different this time? When will you decide you will truly do whatever it takes to reach and maintain your goal?  

 

Realizing these idols are being triggered here - usually control, comfort, pleasure, ease, peace - is a huge step in growth and change!

 

What does a typical day of eating look like for you?

 

The Eat Clean Diet by Tosca Reno came out after I began eating that way, but it pretty much reflects how I eat no matter the day on the calendar!

 

www.eatcleandiet.com 

 

Clean Eating Magazine

 

A typical day for an average individual might look like this eating every 2.5 or 3 hours:

 

Breakfast:

3 egg whites w/ spinach, tomatoes, little parma cheese

3/4c oatmeal w/ blueberries

water

 

Snack:

red pepper sticks

1/2c low fat cottage cheese

water

 

Lunch:

Turkey sandwich on whole grain wheat w/ lettuce, tomato, onion, avocado

low fat mayo or low sugar condiment

slice of lowfat swiss cheese

1/2c broccoli or other steamed vege

if you need chips...try a baked kind

8 oz skim milk

 

Snack:

protein shake

or low fat/low sugar yogurt

carrot sticks/cucumber slices

or 3 celery sticks w/ peanut butter

water

 

Dinner:

Grilled or baked Salmon in olive oil and seasoning

asparagus

salad w/ no dressing...try a little parma cheese or dip your salad in dressing

(you can add 1/2c brown rice or 1/2 baked sweet potato)

water

 

I've found clean eating an easy lifestyle that provides variety, nutrient rich, and tasty meals that leave me satisfied, energized, and fit for any challenge including football!!

 

I welcome any other questions!

 

Blessings to you all...continued inspiration,

 

Kip #45

 

Posted by Kip Watson, MA, LPC, ACE-CPT on Feb 20, 2009 12:59 AM
Ranger walks Across America for Pat and Inspires Diamonds Player to Change

Deciding to make a difference, Rory Fanning travels foot by foot to make sure people don’t forget about Pat Tillman. Setting out from Virginia Beach, Va. a few months ago, Fanning is walking nearly 3,000 miles to the CaliforniaCoast in hopes of raising 3.6 million dollars for the Pat Tillman Foundation. That equates to the value of the NFL contract Tillman gave up to follow his heart into the Army. “There is a big hole in people’s hearts as a result of the way things ended (for Pat) and they are happy that people like me are keeping his memory alive.”

Like Tillman, Fanning, 31, joined the Army following the terrorist attacks in New York City and Washington on 9/11. Both served in the 2nd Ranger Battalion. For six months prior to his death, Fanning worked along side Tillman. Pat’s character and integrity quickly made an impact on him.

Fanning described himself like every other Ranger headed for the bars. On one such occasion, he came across Pat and his brother exchanging papers in a coffee shop, “Each of them had written a 7-page paper on a topic I don’t remember now. They grew up without TV as kids, so for fun they wrote papers and exchanged them on any topic you can imagine for fun on a Friday night.”

“Conversations with him were deep and full,” notes Fanning. “When I talked to him about a topic he’s read and knew more about than I did, he stopped what he was doing, he focused on what I had to say, and he wasn’t trying to interrupt me. Leadership is not about having a million dollar smile and telling people what they want to hear. It’s listening and leading by example.”

Tillman’s legacy of impact stretches beyond Fanning to Jen Welter, an All-Pro Linebacker for the Dallas Diamonds women’s professional football team. Welter met up with Fanning as he made his way through the metroplex. As they walked, Fanning shared Tillman’s passion for service and impact. Inspired by what she heard, Welter decided to make a change in her own, “Fanning is giving of himself to honor Pat. And, in my own small way, I hope by wearing #40, Pat’s number, I can help Fanning’s goal of impacting people through selfless leadership.”

Welter has worn #47 since she started playing football 8 years ago. After hearing more about Tillman and some similarities in their statue and playing ability, Welter decided she would let go of her own ego attachment to #47 and begin wearing #40 to honor the cause of leadership through serving.

As the two walked, Welter also learned of the challenges facing Fanning as he moves across the country. While he carries essentials in his 25 pound backpack, finding a place to shower, shave, and change proves difficult. The Diamonds Linebacker who trains for Snap Fitness reached into her own bag and pulled out a keycard for Fanning, “I was struck by the realization of the simple things many of us take for granted like a warm shower. We talked about possible solutions. I gave him my 24-7 access keycard to clubs across America. So, I took action and later asked for forgiveness. Thankfully, they were very supportive and have come on board as a partner,” notes Welter.

Encouraging people to step out of their comfort zone, Fanning is asking people to use their freedom to pursue a cause beyond self. “That’s what Pat did,” said Fanning. The Pat Tillman Foundation ensures Tillman’s legacy of leadership and civic action in younger generations through specific programs and scholarships.

Fanning now makes his way to Lubbock, Texas where he will speak to young people at TexasTechUniversity. “I truly hope other people will hear of Rory’s example of selfless leadership and support him by either walking with him, buying him a meal, giving him a roof to sleep under, and/ or making a donation,” says Welter. “He is a refreshing person who literally is trying to make a positive impact, one step at a time.”

To track Fanning’s journey and make a donation to the Pat Tillman Foundation, log on to: www.walkforpat.org, www.blog.walkforpat.org, or www.pattillmanfoundation.org .

And, drop Rory a line...he will text you or email you back!! He is near Breckenridge, Texas right now...

To keep up with Jen Welter and watch her play as #40, log into www.dallasdiamondsfootball.com .

Stay inspired,

Kip #45

 

Posted by Kip Watson, MA, LPC, ACE-CPT on Feb 10, 2009 9:38 AM
Only a few Veterans Return

My back already hurts! After two weekends on the field in freezing cold temperatures, I’m feeling every bit of my 42 years. But, boy does it feel good to be back in action with the Rookies and a few of the Veterans from the Championship run.

No doubt this year will be different.  We have about a dozen Veterans coming back from the 43 on the roster last year. Unfortunately, Jessica Springer will not be one of the Veterans coming back. I spoke to her last night and she said with regard to playing, ‘No, as of right now that is wishful thinking.”  

Losing Springer and nearly all our starters equates to a major loss of talent and experience. Some say we are rebuilding. Our new Head Coach, Brian Bishop, says we are ‘reloading’. I like ‘reloading’ better.

Returning Vets include Odessa Jenkins, a Plano power house Running Back who can move the ball with great agility and speed. She will be tough to bring down. Rachel May, an explosive Tight End who racked up major yardage last year herself. Keller WR standout Dani Welniak, and QB Kelei Walker.

And, you know who is looking good in practice, Frisco’s Holly Headen. The Offensive Guard played in one game last year before incurring a season ending knee injury in practice. Off season rehab and strength conditioning helped Headen come back in good form. All Coaches have commented on her technique and power. Be looking for her as a key factor in the new O-Line this year.

Defensively, Ann Richardson and Julie ‘Brick’ Parton return to the line. All-Pro Linebackers KB Bowman and Dallas’ Jen Welter are coming back for another year. And, outstanding Cornerback Berta Brydson also joins the small list of Veterans indicating they playing this year. These five experienced players know how to penetrate an offense and make the play. All four started last year. They held a strong Chicago Force team on the 1 inch line for two series. That goal line stance was one of the most impressive defensive team efforts ever in football.

Emily Tidwell, All-Pro Linebacker, punter, and kicker decided to return for another season as well. She earned the IWFL accuracy honors last year. No doubt, Tidwell will be a key aspect to the Diamonds’ scoring success.

As we ‘reload’ for this year, we make a return to education on and off the field. While tremendous athletes from a variety of sport backgrounds, most of us have never played football before or have little playing experience. It is essential we learn the basics and build a solid foundation. Knowing the fundamentals of the game and key terminology fills our practices along with conditioning and agility.

While I was prepared for the conditioning and agility part of practice, I was not ready for how cold Saturday mornings are at 7:45am. During that first practice, we ran and did conditioning in below freezing temperatures with what seemed like a gale force wind. I could not feel my fingers and toes for about 2 hours. And, I’m a Buckeye! I can’t imagine how many hours it took my native Texan teammates to thaw out!

 

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Nutrition Tip: Instead of mayonnaise in your chicken or tuna salad try low fat or non-fat cottage cheese.

 

Fitness Tip: If you are trying to burn the fat, do interval training. For example walk at 4mph for one minute than run at 7mph for one minute. Alternate back and forth following a warm-up for 30 minutes than cool down with a 3 minute walk at 3.2mph.

 

Motivation Tip: “There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.” –Beverly Sills Take a step each day to create a new clean eating and physically fit lifestyle.

 

Fashion Tip: Sorry everyone, but ditch the ‘skinny’ jean. There are very few people who actually look good wearing the ‘skinny’ jean or jeans that taper at the ankle (the dreaded ‘mommy’ jean). Instead, chose ‘flare’ or ‘boot cut’ jeans. They flattered nearly every figure!

 

Football Fact: Did you know that ‘football’ was first used in Britain during the Middle Ages as another name for soccer. Thus, the first football games played in America were variations of soccer. Believe it or not, but carrying or throwing the ball was NOT permitted!

 

Stay inspired,Kip #45

 

www.dallasdiamondsfootball.com for schedule and ticket information

 

www.womenstacklefootballgroup.ning.com for more information on women’s tackle football teams and players across the nation

www.iamsecond.com

 

 

Posted by Kip Watson, MA, LPC, ACE-CPT on Feb 3, 2009 2:52 PM

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